Solo or Sociable
What sort of writer are you? And is there a right or wrong way?
This month I thought I’d address the topic of how do we write – completely alone, with someone, or in a group? What’s best and what might work for you?

We all have our own way of writing, and it might change depending on what we’re writing, our mood and our situation. On holiday, I like nothing better than to go to a beach, preferably where there’s no-one else about. If it’s warm, I’ll sit on the beach; if not, in the car. Staring out at the waves invariably puts me in a good mood and I have spent many hours writing happily in such a state.
At home, I’m fortunate to have a small office that looks out onto my garden. And although this is where I do a lot of writing, unless I’m really in the “zone”, I find there are too many distractions. You’ll probably recognise some!
- that flower bed definitely needs weeding
- I must put the bins out
- a friend has phoned up for a chat
- I’ll just Google that research point
- just a quick peak at my e-mails!
Is writing alone the way to go?
If you read the opinions of famous writers, it would seem so!
Ernest Hemingway said: ” Writing, at its best, is a lonely life. You must be prepared to work always without applause.”
Gustave Flaubert: “Writing is a lonely life, but the only life worth living.”
Franz Kafka: “Writing is utter solitude, the descent into the cold abyss of oneself.”
And on a brighter note! Margaret Atwood: Writing is alone, but I don’t think it’s lonely. Ask any writer if they feel lonely when they’re writing their book, and I think they’ll say no.
No distractions
What these writers are saying is that the actual physical work of writing is best done on one’s own with no distractions. But I firmly believe there is a place for writing with others, and meeting and/or socialising with other writers. There are so many options: it’s just a case of finding what works for you.
- A writing buddy
A fellow writer you’re happy to spend time with, in person or, if circumstances demand, on a screen. You might talk about writing; you might swap pieces and critique them; you might spend the time in relative silence to write. - A group of writers
The group could meet weekly, set homework, read out and critique each other’s work. They could be monthly meetings, some with a guest speaker, others as manuscript critiques.

- Classes/workshops
Many adult education colleges run these, so too do individual writing groups, writers, publishing companies etc etc. They vary – in quality, makeup of participants and price! Personal recommendation is probably one of the best ways to choose. I love them! I always manage to get motivated by going to a class, and if you find a really good tutor, that’s a bonus, so too a writing buddy. - Residential writing courses
Many are held in lovely parts of the country with meals all catered, one-to-one sessions, guest speakers and critiquing sessions. They tend to be attract what I term “serious” writers and can be very sociable. - Online courses
These seem to have proliferated in the last ten years with publishing houses in particular offering a whole range of topics. Again, some are quite pricey. They can vary from one-day webinars, to three or six-week or even six-month courses, with some offering the opportunity to critique each other’s work. - Free online courses
These often take the form of webinars – often by authors, agents, editors and publishers. I find the half-hour ones the most accessible as anything longer, I have found, can deviate from the main topic and you end up not getting much out of them. Again, speak to your fellow writers and ask which ones they recommend.
In the New Year I hope to blog a bit more about courses, telling you about the ones I’ve found useful and enjoyable. If anyone has similar stories they’d like to tell, please do send them via the Feedback button.
So, is it best to go Solo? My preference to is to write on my own, in silence, resisting telephone calls and emails. And then, to go to any or all of the above to be sociable, and to keep up my motivation and learning.
Happy writing.
Linda